Making a case as to why NOT to bring home a Regal angel

[Aquattro]

Originally Posted by es355lucille

Hi Diana, to tell you the truth I don't really say much on the forum as I have seen this on a number of occasions and I don’t find it very constructive or positive for anyone new to the hobby. Most of us new to the hobby feel dumb enough at times without it being splattered on the forum.

And this is a shame, most of us want to encourage the asking of dumb questions. I've been here for longer than I can remember. Did I mention anything about the school of purple anthias I killed last year? My GF thought they'd be pretty, so I made excuses on why I could keep them. Nope, starved, just like I knew they would. These things happen to everyone, with or without experience. If I had of asked up front, maybe someone would have yelled me out of a stupid decision.
As mentioned, if you want to ask but don't want the few to pounce on you, PM someone. There are lots of people here that have patience and understand that nobody knows everything, and that you may have got a bad start in the hobby from poor advice. But, the purpose of this board is to help, not judge, so please disregard the attitude of some of the frustrated people, just realize they aren't bad people, just very pasionate about this stuff and perhaps take the wrong route in portraying that.

Dianna, thanks for being brave enough to ask, and braver still in sticking around to tell your side. Hopefully it encourages other people to do the same. Yes, we all make stupid mistakes, and when one of us is man or woman enough to admit it in a forum like this, well, you deserve credit for that alone. Good luck with whatever you decide.

It's funny, I just remembered one of our old members who had one of the nicest tanks ever got one of these angels, nobody said squat to him about it, other than "hey, nice fish"

[Leah]

Oh, oh, oh,
Something positive just about fell off my chair. Yes we hopefully learn from others posting their own mistakes. After being royally chastized myself I feel like it is
sad that we can not be honest. I think when I was trying to be honest I got slammed
before I had a chance to make my point. And felt that because this person was a
sponser I was SOL. So do not feel dumb to start a thread. It helps others.

[OceanicCorals-Ian-]

Originally Posted by Leah

Oh, oh, oh,
Something positive just about fell off my chair. Yes we hopefully learn from others posting their own mistakes. After being royally chastized myself I feel like it is
sad that we can not be honest. I think when I was trying to be honest I got slammed
before I had a chance to make my point. And felt that because this person was a
sponser I was SOL. So do not feel dumb to start a thread. It helps others.

I agree! Questions are a good thing to post, there aren't many dumb questions in this hobby especially when you are a noob; however, sometimes the intelligence and constructiveness of a reply could on occasion be labeled as dumb.

"If you once forfeit the confidence of your fellow citizens, you can never regain their respect and esteem. It is true that you may fool all of the people some of the time; you can even fool some of the people all of the time; but you can't fool all of the people all of the time."
~Abraham Lincoln