HELP!!!!!

[BCOrchidGuy]

I like the saying, "I haven't failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that don't work". Sometimes, even with the best of intentions we do things we regret later. I for one think it's difficult to know when the right time to add things is. There is something that goes on after a tank cycles, it's why alot of stuff does so much better in an established tank. Some inverts don't do well in a tank that's less than so many months old regardless of how well they are maintained but someone who neglects water changes, doesn't dose additives, doesn't use a Ca reactor, dosen't add kalk, doesn't change light bulbs will be able to keep stuff thats considered ultra difficult. The hobby is one where we need to be open to ideas, and sometimes criticism, I'd be willing to bet 99% of the criticism that goes on is from a trying to help perspective rather than an attack against a person.
Why not sit down and write a list of fish you'd be interested in keeping, and inverts. If you go for a lion fish, you'll not be able to keep much else in with it. Shrimp, crabs etc will all be a tasty treat in no time. A lion fish will also put a fair bio load on your tank, so corals may not like the company.
Just my two cents worth.

Doug