Legal Help...PLEASE!!!

my2rotties · #1 07-16-2009, 08:42 PM

Just like you said, relationships are unique. I don't know how much older the ex girlfriend is in this case, and she may have bitten off more then she could chew. I agree he should get out of the relationship, since it is clearly not what both people are looking for out of it. Sometimes we learn about the significant other through the mistakes we make...

So long as he cares for his dog properly while he is out partying, then I don't think it is such a bad thing. Like I mentioned before, the dog has nobody else but him for attention.

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Originally Posted by michika

Thats it? Seriously? Yeah, like others have mentioned, cut and run! Take your puppy and run far far far away! If she reacted like this over friends in town for the Stampede, what else will she react over, and how far would it go in the future? I party all the time, frequently until dawn the following day. Its never been an issue. Then again relationships are unique. Although I still stand by my recommendation, based on the provided information, that you just chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.

Just go straight to the cops for an escort to your own property to get your stuff. Do it during the day like mentioned to avoid the interactions that might come in the evening.

Any luck on a new place?

KennyKen · #2 07-16-2009, 09:12 PM

Well here is the deal now. Im borrowing a truck and getting all my stuff out tomorrow evening....granted she lets me in.

I am 24 and she is 27, and the invite to go out with me is ALWAYS there, she is just really introverted opposed to myself, being extremely extroverted.

As for reconciliation, that appears to be out of the question. If can she just flip a switch like a reset button and complely forget about our history together, its not worth trying to start over again.

The next step is uncertain. Im staying at friends right now that has 2 dogs (one of them being a bulldog) and there is always someone home, when i am not. But as for a long term stay, this is not. SO for the time being this is a good spot for me.

Im looking for a place with another friend, but im not gonna wait to long on that either. If i have not found a place by the middle August, im moving back to Toronto to live with my brother.

By the way, anyone have any connections with uhaul or a moving company. I enquired about renting the smallest cube truck from uhaul for the trip and the quote was $2900...but the guy liked me so much he said he would drop it too 2800$, LOL
I dont have much to move at all, 6 or 7 boxes, a tv and a 90g tank and stand (im keeping my equipment if i do move there as everything is over priced out there)

my2rotties · #3 07-16-2009, 09:26 PM

Well at least you know early you guys are just not right for each other. Better now then after having children and all the other stuff. At least you invited her out with you. I didn't like the club scene but once you drink enough, all the inhibitions go away quickly

Don't waste you time trying live up to expectations you know you are not ready to live up to right now. At least the pup is taken care of and he was my biggest concern. We as people can care for our needs, but dogs are stuck with what we provide them. Good for you for looking out for him.

I don't know if it would be cheaper to put your stuff on a Greyhound bus or something, since you don't really have all that much. I would also put an add on Calgary Kijiji seeing if anyone is driving out to your destination and if they have space for you and your stuff perhaps for a part of the travel expense. It is worth a try. Sometimes people are needing a person to drive or deliver a vehicle to other provinces so look out for that as well. Uhaul sure tried to bend you over, and after the week you had, you need a break.

Do you have the pup with you now? I am glad you at least were able to get him in the negotiations. Good luck with everything and the Stampede is notorious for being a relationship ender. I think there was something in the newspaper about it

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Originally Posted by KennyKen

Well here is the deal now. Im borrowing a truck and getting all my stuff out tomorrow evening....granted she lets me in.

I am 24 and she is 27, and the invite to go out with me is ALWAYS there, she is just really introverted opposed to myself, being extremely extroverted.

As for reconciliation, that appears to be out of the question. If can she just flip a switch like a reset button and complely forget about our history together, its not worth trying to start over again.

The next step is uncertain. Im staying at friends right now that has 2 dogs (one of them being a bulldog) and there is always someone home, when i am not. But as for a long term stay, this is not. SO for the time being this is a good spot for me.

Im looking for a place with another friend, but im not gonna wait to long on that either. If i have not found a place by the middle August, im moving back to Toronto to live with my brother.

By the way, anyone have any connections with uhaul or a moving company. I enquired about renting the smallest cube truck from uhaul for the trip and the quote was $2900...but the guy liked me so much he said he would drop it too 2800$, LOL
I dont have much to move at all, 6 or 7 boxes, a tv and a 90g tank and stand (im keeping my equipment if i do move there as everything is over priced out there)

michika · #4 07-16-2009, 09:59 PM

If you have that few boxes, just greyhound them. I'd pack up some of my harder to find equipment, and just take that home with me. Everything else I'd sell to finance to move home. Some equipment is easy to find again, and some isn't, so things like the tank itself might be easy, while a fancy custom stand wouldn't be.

The other option is get someone who is over 25 to rent a truck, just a regular pick-up. You have to be 25 in Alberta to rent everything beyond a car. Map out a road-trip type destination including pet friendly hotels/motels/camp sites along the way and just drive out. A friend of mine did it 2 years in row when she went to University out there. I think they made the trip in 3 days including some goofing around.

Just budget out the difference in costs; flying + greyhound for your stuff, or driving; rented truck, U-haul/etc. It might give you a better idea on what will work best.

Watch the rental places for sales/promos to see if you can get an unlimited Km deal with a return at another location.

Phanman · #5 07-16-2009, 10:21 PM

If your looking for rental property in calgary PM me. I can probably help you out. A friend of mine rents out his properties that he owns. (Think he has 3 available right now) Let me know the area ur looking for and your budget and ill give him a ring for you.

StirCrazy · #6 07-16-2009, 11:33 PM

I have to agree, I would expect the same thing if I did a 5 day party with my buddies

one night is totaly ok, but at my age it would take me two weeks to recover from one night with some of my buddies

but 5 nights... many I would be lucky to even be given a note and a bag of clothes.. I mean seariously about day 3 I would be wondering if I should even go home and by day 5 I wouldn't have to wonder anymore.. and I normaly go off for 3 to 6 months for work.. totaly different though, you can expect the other 1/2 to take all the responcibility while your out having fun.

Steve

my2rotties · #7 07-16-2009, 11:55 PM

I can honestly say that even when I was first with my hubby, he would not have tolerated me going partying with friends for days in a row. Call me whipped I don't care... I went every where with him, and invited my friends to come with us, ot him come out with my friends and I. However relationships are unique like Cathrine said... My hubby and I have always been the very best of friends since the beginning and I think this is a huge part of building and keeping a successful relationship.

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Originally Posted by StirCrazy

I have to agree, I would expect the same thing if I did a 5 day party with my buddies

one night is totaly ok, but at my age it would take me two weeks to recover from one night with some of my buddies

but 5 nights... many I would be lucky to even be given a note and a bag of clothes.. I mean seariously about day 3 I would be wondering if I should even go home and by day 5 I wouldn't have to wonder anymore.. and I normaly go off for 3 to 6 months for work.. totaly different though, you can expect the other 1/2 to take all the responcibility while your out having fun.

Steve