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07-16-2009, 07:59 PM
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 I didn't mean anything bad by what I said... I can say if my husband did this for as long as you did, I prob would have felt inclined to do the same thing. If you are living with this woman, and in a relationship, you can't have "party mode" and her at the same time, unless she is invited to party with you If I were you, I would be butt kissing, sending flowers and apologizing a whole lot. I am not condoning her keeping your belongings, since that is just as immature as you have been during the Stampede. I don't know how much older she is then you, but if you are living with her and stuff, it is a more serious relationship. I guess you have to decide if you really want to settle down into a relationship or be in party mode. How old are you anyways, if you don't mind me asking? If you have a dog, you still do need a lot of responsibility in keeping him happy and you do have to give him stability and guidance. You can't be out all night partying when your dog is at home alone. Your dog only has YOU and YOU are his only source of company and friendship. I guess this is why your ex decided she should keep him, since it was her that was stuck with the responsibility while you were partying. I have had dogs since I was 19 years old, and although I went through party mode with hubby (was with him since I was 21 and he was 19), the dogs were always first and foremost in priorities. I'm not trying to bust your chops (I am sure they have been busted up enough ), but doing a week long party thing without her, is really rotten. You really did ask for it in the end. She should give you your stuff back, and you are right, once she cools down, approach her for it again.You cannot expect her to have to live with this inconsiderate behavior, no matter how old you are. You were sleeping in her bed, and playing house, which means she has the right to have expectations from you. Sorry if I am being blunt but I can't sugar coat it for you. Good luck with whatever happens and I do think you are entitled to your stuff. Just leave a note and say how sorry you are things didn't work out between you, and she deserves better then what she got from you. Take full responsibility for your actions and lay the blame on yourself. She might come around sooner if you don't give any excuses. Quote:
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07-16-2009, 08:11 PM
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Sorry but I know my gf wouldn't mind if I went partying for a few days because old friends came into town. She might not be too thrilled inside but wouldn't stop me from going or kick me out as a result, provided I didn't do anything really bad
. You can't base a relationship on hoping or trying to change the other person, that's not how it works so IMO she was in the wrong and you don't owe her anything. By the sounds of things she sounds fairly manipulative, immature and only happy if she gets her way. She obviously wasn't ready for a real relationship and perhaps you weren't either so lets all move on 
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07-16-2009, 08:20 PM
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True enough, but each any every person is different. I don't know the whole take on the relationship BUT I gave him the worst case scenario. I know well enough that you have no right to try to change someone else. I have been with my husband long enough to know it is easier to change yourself to accept certain things in your mate, rather then fight them to be what you want. However, there is also meeting in the middle, and a whole entire week of partying all hours of the night and coming home drunk, is not meeting in the middle either. There has to be some consideration towards someone else's feelings in the end. I am not condoning what she did, but I am also not going to take the poster's side since I feel he really has no regard for her feelings at all. Using the excuse that he has no aspirations in life, shows he is not taking any responsibility. I bet he did not call her to say he would be out all night or tell her anything at all.
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07-16-2009, 08:29 PM
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What are you talking about? He came home at 2am the one night
All kidding aside good relationships are all about compromise but a young guy should have every right to party with his friends during the stampede, the compromise could have been something he would do after the stampede and his friends are back out of town. It seems blatantly obvious she didn't give, just took saying my way or the highway.
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07-16-2009, 08:38 PM
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Well my best advise on his behalf to his ex girlfriend is if you can't beat him, join him
I hate the bar Cowboys very much, but I have gone the odd time to party with the hubby back in the day. He would invite me often for club nights and I would opt out sometimes, but the invite was there, so I couldn't get mad. I know he knew I would say no anyways and he had FREEDOM What did **** me off is when he would roll in at 5am... without calling. He had a reputation for fighting and I would always wonder if he was in jail or emergency. I also did not like the fact that he may drink and drive or his buddies would do the same and get in an accident. Sometimes a group of guys does not have the best judgment in party mode. In a relationship there is a certain warfare that comes along with meeting in the middle, but it is different with every person and relationship. Sometimes you need to know how to trick your significant other into thinking certain things were their idea in the first place That comes with time, age and experience, which the poster admits by his part mode comment he does not have just yet.Man, I could tell you so many stories... Quote:
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