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07-16-2009, 04:35 PM
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If a woman gets the best of a guy, he usually takes the hit, and moves on. If a man gets the best of a woman, she will typically be out for vengeance and cry victim and do whatever it takes to get even... sorry ladies but it is true and this is a woman speaking by the way.
The poster must have really done something SUPER bad to make a woman keep his stuff and throw his butt out. I think he should wait and let her cool down like he had mentioned. She might not be able to give him his clothes and underwear back since she might have cut them into pieces. I have known woman that have done things of this nature. I am very lucky to have had a very awesome relationship with my husband of 16 years, but have seen what can happen when a woman is really ****ed at her man. Good luck to the poster, he may need it... he should just lay low for awhile. 
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07-16-2009, 06:11 PM
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I am the younger person in the relationship and am in quote "party mode", and have no real aspirations in life. So she wanted me to change, this was at the beginning of stampede, when 2 of my best friends had arrived into town from Toronto and i had stumbled home at 5 am..... So 5 days later i was still in "party mode" as it was the final weekend of the pede when i cam home around 2 am friday to a bag packed and a note saying "Here is bag, leave" And believe me im not leaving anything out of "bad" stuff i have done.... She has been a real bull on this.
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07-16-2009, 07:10 PM
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well if you paid rent for this month and have a key techinicly you live there still and could go back and get your stuff. if anyone asks, just say you saw the note, went to a friends for a few days, realized it was time to seperate and went back to get your stuff and leave the key there and lock the door behind you.
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07-17-2009, 03:25 AM
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Geze, just 5 days of partyin??? I'm 36 and I party for 20 days straight every 6 weeks(my schedualed time out of camp) well, maybe not straight, but you know what I mean.....
I say, good to find out how she is now, instead of after 13 years.....Ask me how I know
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07-17-2009, 03:27 AM
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Divorced???
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07-17-2009, 04:16 AM
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07-16-2009, 07:59 PM
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 I didn't mean anything bad by what I said... I can say if my husband did this for as long as you did, I prob would have felt inclined to do the same thing. If you are living with this woman, and in a relationship, you can't have "party mode" and her at the same time, unless she is invited to party with you If I were you, I would be butt kissing, sending flowers and apologizing a whole lot. I am not condoning her keeping your belongings, since that is just as immature as you have been during the Stampede. I don't know how much older she is then you, but if you are living with her and stuff, it is a more serious relationship. I guess you have to decide if you really want to settle down into a relationship or be in party mode. How old are you anyways, if you don't mind me asking? If you have a dog, you still do need a lot of responsibility in keeping him happy and you do have to give him stability and guidance. You can't be out all night partying when your dog is at home alone. Your dog only has YOU and YOU are his only source of company and friendship. I guess this is why your ex decided she should keep him, since it was her that was stuck with the responsibility while you were partying. I have had dogs since I was 19 years old, and although I went through party mode with hubby (was with him since I was 21 and he was 19), the dogs were always first and foremost in priorities. I'm not trying to bust your chops (I am sure they have been busted up enough ), but doing a week long party thing without her, is really rotten. You really did ask for it in the end. She should give you your stuff back, and you are right, once she cools down, approach her for it again.You cannot expect her to have to live with this inconsiderate behavior, no matter how old you are. You were sleeping in her bed, and playing house, which means she has the right to have expectations from you. Sorry if I am being blunt but I can't sugar coat it for you. Good luck with whatever happens and I do think you are entitled to your stuff. Just leave a note and say how sorry you are things didn't work out between you, and she deserves better then what she got from you. Take full responsibility for your actions and lay the blame on yourself. She might come around sooner if you don't give any excuses. Quote:
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07-16-2009, 08:11 PM
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Sorry but I know my gf wouldn't mind if I went partying for a few days because old friends came into town. She might not be too thrilled inside but wouldn't stop me from going or kick me out as a result, provided I didn't do anything really bad
. You can't base a relationship on hoping or trying to change the other person, that's not how it works so IMO she was in the wrong and you don't owe her anything. By the sounds of things she sounds fairly manipulative, immature and only happy if she gets her way. She obviously wasn't ready for a real relationship and perhaps you weren't either so lets all move on 
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07-16-2009, 08:20 PM
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True enough, but each any every person is different. I don't know the whole take on the relationship BUT I gave him the worst case scenario. I know well enough that you have no right to try to change someone else. I have been with my husband long enough to know it is easier to change yourself to accept certain things in your mate, rather then fight them to be what you want. However, there is also meeting in the middle, and a whole entire week of partying all hours of the night and coming home drunk, is not meeting in the middle either. There has to be some consideration towards someone else's feelings in the end. I am not condoning what she did, but I am also not going to take the poster's side since I feel he really has no regard for her feelings at all. Using the excuse that he has no aspirations in life, shows he is not taking any responsibility. I bet he did not call her to say he would be out all night or tell her anything at all.
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