Lately, things are a bit hostile in the forum!

[Coralgurl]

Originally Posted by Dearth

This is a tame forum compared to some I've been and post on regularly...wanna see hostile try posting this on a site like RC or Nano Reef then get out Kiens popcorn get an armchair and watch the ensuing fun and fireworks we are definitely more reserved than our neighbours to the south.

This is sooo true. I'm on another forum not reef related and it blows my mind what some people think is appropriate to post. We are truly Canadian on this site and for the most part, a very friendly bunch

[Reef Pilot]

Originally Posted by Coralgurl

This is sooo true. I'm on another forum not reef related and it blows my mind what some people think is appropriate to post. We are truly Canadian on this site and for the most part, a very friendly bunch

Very true indeed. I have some American friends, and some have noticed and even admitted to me that Canadians are more friendly and tolerant.

Maybe it has something to do with the unhappiness that comes with their failing image of being the world's greatest...

[daplatapus]

Not to make this any more controversial, but I refuse to believe or live my life by the creed of "The world is what it is and we have to lower our standards and join it. There's nothing we can do about it."
We all have choices in what we say and how we say it. Some people are truly double faced. One persona in person, but because they hide behind some alias on a forum, a totally different person on line because they feel they can get away with it. The more that spirit is adopted as the norm and is ok, the lower these forums will sink into tirades, name calling and un-fettered venting of emotions.
Keep in mind this a hobby. My view of a forum like this is to share our experience, meet with like minded people who share a common interest (because my wife sure doesn't share it, lol), give help and get it when needed. But there's huge differences in experience, temperaments, and code of conduct between all our members. And that's Ok. But I think we still have to have standards and hold to account those who don't respect that.
And guess what, if someone has a differing opinion than I, no amount of disrespect and name calling is going to change my mind. A well written post, with the intent of HELPING me might.

It all comes down to choices. We're either part of the problem or part of the solution. We can all choose to be tactful, helpful and kind and enjoy ourselves here, or do the reverse and feel uncomfortable posting our mistakes or experiences because we know we're going to get lambasted.

[jorjef]

Sticks and stones. The only person that can make you feel bad, inferior and etc. etc. ....... is yourself. Believe it and be stronger because of it.

[Nano]

Originally Posted by daplatapus

Not to make this any more controversial, but I refuse to believe or live my life by the creed of "The world is what it is and we have to lower our standards and join it. There's nothing we can do about it."
We all have choices in what we say and how we say it. Some people are truly double faced. One persona in person, but because they hide behind some alias on a forum, a totally different person on line because they feel they can get away with it. The more that spirit is adopted as the norm and is ok, the lower these forums will sink into tirades, name calling and un-fettered venting of emotions.
Keep in mind this a hobby. My view of a forum like this is to share our experience, meet with like minded people who share a common interest (because my wife sure doesn't share it, lol), give help and get it when needed. But there's huge differences in experience, temperaments, and code of conduct between all our members. And that's Ok. But I think we still have to have standards and hold to account those who don't respect that.
And guess what, if someone has a differing opinion than I, no amount of disrespect and name calling is going to change my mind. A well written post, with the intent of HELPING me might.

It all comes down to choices. We're either part of the problem or part of the solution. We can all choose to be tactful, helpful and kind and enjoy ourselves here, or do the reverse and feel uncomfortable posting our mistakes or experiences because we know we're going to get lambasted.

Amen to that. Well said.

[Myka]

It's hostile? Here I thought it was just normal CanReef bickering for the last 9 years...

[Skimmerking]

Originally Posted by Myka

It's hostile? Here I thought it was just normal CanReef bickering for the last 9 years...

It is mindy some people take it to heart I guess never pass a dig lol

[H2o2]

As the bio pellets turn ......so does the the Days Of Our Lives Tee hee

[Myka]

Originally Posted by Skimmer King

It is mindy some people take it to heart I guess never pass a dig lol

I guess so! I think there is often lots lost in translation too. I've many times posted something and gone back to see what the OP responded to have someone throwing a fit and me scratching my head.

[es355lucille]

I was looking for a post from someone whom has been here for a while. LOL! CanReef will "always" and forever have controversy. That's what makes us keep coming back! Hey! if we all thought the same way and went in the same direction the fricken leader would jump off the bridge and all of us lemmings would be right behind.

The only common sense thing I can add to any of this is "please be kind to one another".

Hi Myka!

Originally Posted by Myka

It's hostile? Here I thought it was just normal CanReef bickering for the last 9 years...