Legal Help...PLEASE!!!

[sphelps]

What are you talking about? He came home at 2am the one night

All kidding aside good relationships are all about compromise but a young guy should have every right to party with his friends during the stampede, the compromise could have been something he would do after the stampede and his friends are back out of town. It seems blatantly obvious she didn't give, just took saying my way or the highway.

[my2rotties]

Well my best advise on his behalf to his ex girlfriend is if you can't beat him, join him

I hate the bar Cowboys very much, but I have gone the odd time to party with the hubby back in the day. He would invite me often for club nights and I would opt out sometimes, but the invite was there, so I couldn't get mad. I know he knew I would say no anyways and he had FREEDOM

What did **** me off is when he would roll in at 5am... without calling. He had a reputation for fighting and I would always wonder if he was in jail or emergency. I also did not like the fact that he may drink and drive or his buddies would do the same and get in an accident. Sometimes a group of guys does not have the best judgment in party mode.

In a relationship there is a certain warfare that comes along with meeting in the middle, but it is different with every person and relationship. Sometimes you need to know how to trick your significant other into thinking certain things were their idea in the first place That comes with time, age and experience, which the poster admits by his part mode comment he does not have just yet.

Man, I could tell you so many stories...

Originally Posted by sphelps

What are you talking about? He came home at 2am the one night

All kidding aside good relationships are all about compromise but a young guy should have every right to party with his friends during the stampede, the compromise could have been something he would do after the stampede and his friends are back out of town. It seems blatantly obvious she didn't give, just took saying my way or the highway.

[michika]

Originally Posted by KennyKen

Do you want to know what i did?
I am the younger person in the relationship and am in quote "party mode", and have no real aspirations in life.
So she wanted me to change, this was at the beginning of stampede, when 2 of my best friends had arrived into town from Toronto and i had stumbled home at 5 am.....
So 5 days later i was still in "party mode" as it was the final weekend of the pede when i cam home around 2 am friday to a bag packed and a note saying "Here is bag, leave"

And believe me im not leaving anything out of "bad" stuff i have done....
She has been a real bull on this.

Thats it? Seriously? Yeah, like others have mentioned, cut and run! Take your puppy and run far far far away! If she reacted like this over friends in town for the Stampede, what else will she react over, and how far would it go in the future? I party all the time, frequently until dawn the following day. Its never been an issue. Then again relationships are unique. Although I still stand by my recommendation, based on the provided information, that you just chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.

Just go straight to the cops for an escort to your own property to get your stuff. Do it during the day like mentioned to avoid the interactions that might come in the evening.

Any luck on a new place?

[my2rotties]

Just like you said, relationships are unique. I don't know how much older the ex girlfriend is in this case, and she may have bitten off more then she could chew. I agree he should get out of the relationship, since it is clearly not what both people are looking for out of it. Sometimes we learn about the significant other through the mistakes we make...

So long as he cares for his dog properly while he is out partying, then I don't think it is such a bad thing. Like I mentioned before, the dog has nobody else but him for attention.

Originally Posted by michika

Thats it? Seriously? Yeah, like others have mentioned, cut and run! Take your puppy and run far far far away! If she reacted like this over friends in town for the Stampede, what else will she react over, and how far would it go in the future? I party all the time, frequently until dawn the following day. Its never been an issue. Then again relationships are unique. Although I still stand by my recommendation, based on the provided information, that you just chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.

Just go straight to the cops for an escort to your own property to get your stuff. Do it during the day like mentioned to avoid the interactions that might come in the evening.

Any luck on a new place?

[KennyKen]

Well here is the deal now. Im borrowing a truck and getting all my stuff out tomorrow evening....granted she lets me in.
I am 24 and she is 27, and the invite to go out with me is ALWAYS there, she is just really introverted opposed to myself, being extremely extroverted.

As for reconciliation, that appears to be out of the question. If can she just flip a switch like a reset button and complely forget about our history together, its not worth trying to start over again.

The next step is uncertain. Im staying at friends right now that has 2 dogs (one of them being a bulldog) and there is always someone home, when i am not. But as for a long term stay, this is not. SO for the time being this is a good spot for me.

Im looking for a place with another friend, but im not gonna wait to long on that either. If i have not found a place by the middle August, im moving back to Toronto to live with my brother.

By the way, anyone have any connections with uhaul or a moving company. I enquired about renting the smallest cube truck from uhaul for the trip and the quote was $2900...but the guy liked me so much he said he would drop it too 2800$, LOL
I dont have much to move at all, 6 or 7 boxes, a tv and a 90g tank and stand (im keeping my equipment if i do move there as everything is over priced out there)

[my2rotties]

Well at least you know early you guys are just not right for each other. Better now then after having children and all the other stuff. At least you invited her out with you. I didn't like the club scene but once you drink enough, all the inhibitions go away quickly

Don't waste you time trying live up to expectations you know you are not ready to live up to right now. At least the pup is taken care of and he was my biggest concern. We as people can care for our needs, but dogs are stuck with what we provide them. Good for you for looking out for him.

I don't know if it would be cheaper to put your stuff on a Greyhound bus or something, since you don't really have all that much. I would also put an add on Calgary Kijiji seeing if anyone is driving out to your destination and if they have space for you and your stuff perhaps for a part of the travel expense. It is worth a try. Sometimes people are needing a person to drive or deliver a vehicle to other provinces so look out for that as well. Uhaul sure tried to bend you over, and after the week you had, you need a break.

Do you have the pup with you now? I am glad you at least were able to get him in the negotiations. Good luck with everything and the Stampede is notorious for being a relationship ender. I think there was something in the newspaper about it

Originally Posted by KennyKen

Well here is the deal now. Im borrowing a truck and getting all my stuff out tomorrow evening....granted she lets me in.
I am 24 and she is 27, and the invite to go out with me is ALWAYS there, she is just really introverted opposed to myself, being extremely extroverted.

As for reconciliation, that appears to be out of the question. If can she just flip a switch like a reset button and complely forget about our history together, its not worth trying to start over again.

The next step is uncertain. Im staying at friends right now that has 2 dogs (one of them being a bulldog) and there is always someone home, when i am not. But as for a long term stay, this is not. SO for the time being this is a good spot for me.

Im looking for a place with another friend, but im not gonna wait to long on that either. If i have not found a place by the middle August, im moving back to Toronto to live with my brother.

By the way, anyone have any connections with uhaul or a moving company. I enquired about renting the smallest cube truck from uhaul for the trip and the quote was $2900...but the guy liked me so much he said he would drop it too 2800$, LOL
I dont have much to move at all, 6 or 7 boxes, a tv and a 90g tank and stand (im keeping my equipment if i do move there as everything is over priced out there)

[michika]

If you have that few boxes, just greyhound them. I'd pack up some of my harder to find equipment, and just take that home with me. Everything else I'd sell to finance to move home. Some equipment is easy to find again, and some isn't, so things like the tank itself might be easy, while a fancy custom stand wouldn't be.

The other option is get someone who is over 25 to rent a truck, just a regular pick-up. You have to be 25 in Alberta to rent everything beyond a car. Map out a road-trip type destination including pet friendly hotels/motels/camp sites along the way and just drive out. A friend of mine did it 2 years in row when she went to University out there. I think they made the trip in 3 days including some goofing around.

Just budget out the difference in costs; flying + greyhound for your stuff, or driving; rented truck, U-haul/etc. It might give you a better idea on what will work best.

Watch the rental places for sales/promos to see if you can get an unlimited Km deal with a return at another location.