I'm sure your wife appreciates the amount of time working on your own tank and pulling this altogether, don't need to add someone elses into the mix....
Mind you, my guy doesn't bother with me and what I do with the tank, occassionally will help with lugging jugs of water (usually the last one...
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I would like to do my stand with my dad, but his health is not great. He would do the work with me and not stop until he was done, but it would end up doing him more harm than good. Also, for now, having all the equipment exposed so I can see what's going on is a good thing as I'm making silly mistakes that if not spotted, could be disaster. So for now, my fish room looks like a fish room instead of what I have envisioned for it, but that's ok.