I didn't mean anything bad by what I said... I can say if my husband did this for as long as you did, I prob would have felt inclined to do the same thing. If you are living with this woman, and in a relationship, you can't have "party mode" and her at the same time, unless she is invited to party with you
If I were you, I would be butt kissing, sending flowers and apologizing a whole lot. I am not condoning her keeping your belongings, since that is just as immature as you have been during the Stampede. I don't know how much older she is then you, but if you are living with her and stuff, it is a more serious relationship. I guess you have to decide if you really want to settle down into a relationship or be in party mode. How old are you anyways, if you don't mind me asking?
If you have a dog, you still do need a lot of responsibility in keeping him happy and you do have to give him stability and guidance. You can't be out all night partying when your dog is at home alone. Your dog only has YOU and YOU are his only source of company and friendship. I guess this is why your ex decided she should keep him, since it was her that was stuck with the responsibility while you were partying. I have had dogs since I was 19 years old, and although I went through party mode with hubby (was with him since I was 21 and he was 19), the dogs were always first and foremost in priorities.
I'm not trying to bust your chops (I am sure they have been busted up enough
), but doing a week long party thing without her, is really rotten. You really did ask for it in the end. She should give you your stuff back, and you are right, once she cools down, approach her for it again.
You cannot expect her to have to live with this inconsiderate behavior, no matter how old you are. You were sleeping in her bed, and playing house, which means she has the right to have expectations from you. Sorry if I am being blunt but I can't sugar coat it for you. Good luck with whatever happens and I do think you are entitled to your stuff. Just leave a note and say how sorry you are things didn't work out between you, and she deserves better then what she got from you. Take full responsibility for your actions and lay the blame on yourself. She might come around sooner if you don't give any excuses.
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Originally Posted by KennyKen
Do you want to know what i did?
I am the younger person in the relationship and am in quote "party mode", and have no real aspirations in life.
So she wanted me to change, this was at the beginning of stampede, when 2 of my best friends had arrived into town from Toronto and i had stumbled home at 5 am.....
So 5 days later i was still in "party mode" as it was the final weekend of the pede when i cam home around 2 am friday to a bag packed and a note saying "Here is bag, leave"
And believe me im not leaving anything out of "bad" stuff i have done....
She has been a real bull on this.
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