Getting a little off topic, but, Tim that fits with mostly my memories of snorkeling in Hawaii. I understand the real reefs you need to go quite a bit further out. Basically all I remember is fish. Congrats on the new addition BTW.
However, you want to see jam packed coral reef, you have to see the Great Barrier Reef. Even the most overcrowded tank does not compare. I found the Carribean (Cozumel/Mayan Riviera area) to be not too bad as well, but more softies like gorgs and such mixed in.
And Mitch, I've never really been bothered by the littler things. It's the big things that cause me trouble. So almost exactly the opposite of what you say.
Although I do agree with some of your points. And as for the anemone, yes, it needs a bigger tank. I still maintain that for minimum risk however that it be a specialized setup. But I've come to terms with what's happened. One cannot hold an animal in contempt for being in its nature. It's like I've tried to warn others in the past: this species get ridiculously large. I thought I had it under control but I was wrong. I will tailor future decisions accordingly, and basically take the bitter pill of taking my own advice.