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Originally Posted by fishoholic
Sounds like natural and logical consequences to me. If she wants another iPod she should have to save up her allowance to buy one herself. By just giving her another one you are teaching her that it is ok to do something wrong and someone else will bail you out and you can get away with it.
I understand it was probably wasn't done on purpose and was a mistake but if a person doesn't have consequences for their mistakes how is that person supposed to learn anything.
Take it from me, my parents created a spoiled monster (mom says I wasn't so bad but I think at times I was) and I wished there was times were they didn't give in so much. Don't get me wrong at the time it was great but as an adult I still have trouble with people saying no to me and not getting my way or what I want when I want it.
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I totally agree. I started young with Felicia. If she does something wrong, I don't give in and just replace it until she has "earned" it by helping around the house (either helping Mommy or giving Daddy a hand with water changes). Fortunately she is very careful with stuff so we haven't had that much drama over stuff being wrecked.
I know too many kids who break stuff and then their parents automatically replace it so they break it again and have no problems expecting mom & dad to go buy another replacement. Bad life lesson & creating a life long problem doing it this way.
Anthony