i just built a very crude model, threw it together and...it sounds so much softer now. I followed this diagram
http://i265.photobucket.com/albums/i...9/stockman.jpg
did the same idea but I drilled 4 holes with a 13/32 bit, and 8 holes with a 5/32 bit, and in the top cap I drilled a 1/8 hole works good and the pump and drain seem to be working well together I will be watching both closely for the next hour or so and see if the pump is going faster than the drain but right now seems good.