True enough, but each any every person is different. I don't know the whole take on the relationship BUT I gave him the worst case scenario. I know well enough that you have no right to try to change someone else. I have been with my husband long enough to know it is easier to change yourself to accept certain things in your mate, rather then fight them to be what you want. However, there is also meeting in the middle, and a whole entire week of partying all hours of the night and coming home drunk, is not meeting in the middle either. There has to be some consideration towards someone else's feelings in the end. I am not condoning what she did, but I am also not going to take the poster's side since I feel he really has no regard for her feelings at all. Using the excuse that he has no aspirations in life, shows he is not taking any responsibility. I bet he did not call her to say he would be out all night or tell her anything at all.
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Originally Posted by sphelps
Sorry but I know my gf wouldn't mind if I went partying for a few days because old friends came into town. She might not be too thrilled inside but wouldn't stop me from going or kick me out as a result, provided I didn't do anything really bad  . You can't base a relationship on hoping or trying to change the other person, that's not how it works so IMO she was in the wrong and you don't owe her anything. By the sounds of things she sounds fairly manipulative, immature and only happy if she gets her way. She obviously wasn't ready for a real relationship and perhaps you weren't either so lets all move on  |