You know, I once overheard someone in our group say something about me when he did not know I was in the room. I don't think I will spend the rest of my days worrying about that. I will, however, leave you with this quote I stole from Alan's email. I think it highly appropriate in this case.
"I maintain that, if everyone knew what others said about him, there would not be four friends in the world." - Blaise Pascal