Yes, I know you are doing research and that's great.
Maybe I'm missing something and didn't read the thread on this correctly, but it seemed to me that you arranged with the seller to purchase the anemone before you started the research. Even though the transaction wasn't complete, the arrangement is the verbal contract. And we all know how everyone feels about people backing out of deals. So, in my mind, it's no different really than if the transaction was complete. If a person says to another that they are going to buy something from them, then they have essentially bought it, IMO. I would have done the research first, then made the arrangement. If that meant it would've been too late....then I'd be patient and wait for another opportunity, or look at ordering one from my LFS.
As well, now correct me if I am wrong, but did you not buy an anemone some months back (about 8 or 10 months ago) without even knowing what kind of anemone it was? I recall there being a thread regarding your research toward finding out the type of an anemone you had bought locally by way of a private sale. Research done after the fact. I'm sorry, but I couldn't help but take a mental note of this. I hope you can understand that this caused me to suspect a pattern.
So long story short....these are observations that I've had and maybe I'm totally out to lunch on all of it and if so then I apologize profusely. It's a complicated hobby and I can understand the temptation to "jump the gun" so to speak. Patience is a virtue in this hobby.
I also want to say that we CanReefers like to help each other out and sometimes it is hard to help when we feel we have to bite our tongues regarding topics of a sensitive nature. Having said that....I realize you are doing the research. I just think the timing of your research is a little off, that's all.
So please take this as constructive critizism. You've asked where I'm coming from and I've told you. I could have just as easily have ignored this and gone on with my day. Like I said, maybe I'm the only one with these observations and am totally out of place and if so...my humble apologies to you. And it's not meant to be personal either. I am sure you are a fine person and it is clear that you are well liked by many CanReefers.
Actually, if I may attempt to end this on a positive, I like the "HaHa's" you put into your posts. I know other people do it, but you have a knack for doing it that adds a cheery persona to your character.
Cheers,
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Mark.
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