sad day for this cat :(
 

im sure nobody wants to hear this but with no family or friends in this city this is where i can let out a bit:)

today me and my better half broke up she and her family moved her stuff out and i dont think we will be getting back together.weve been fighting over the last few months and i guess she had it and decided to leave. i know its my fault and not hers so im not placing blame , the phrase you dont know what you have untill its gone keeps coming to mind and somehow my mind was clouded for a long time , not even sure how it got to be this bad that she would want to leave i guess communication was lacking or im just blind to the signs:(:(:(



sorry if this doesnt belong here they can delete if if they like:( thanks

Totally been there before man. It doesn't help when we're fiddle faddlin' with our tanks 24-7 either. Best of luck.

Sorry to hear that :(

Sometimes it does take losing someone to put things in perspective.

Balance is the key. ;)

So sorry to hear.

thanks guys i def agree with you all, i find the hardest part today is sitting in my empty house looking around at all the stuff gone, hard to believe it happened. not gonna lie she didnt approve of the tanks and it was def a contributing factor to our fights. how does one even start to start over we own everything together bills, animals, house, random junk. i moved here without any family ive since lost contact with my good friends because she was all i needed and i thought it would last forever:) man what a life changer:(:(

thanks guys for all the kind words:) it really cheered me up and got me to stop wandering the house like a zombie for a bit:):)

You're describing my situation 10 years ago to a T it's sorta scary. Amazing what time and a few failed fish tanks can do to make you forget. My problem was refusing to let go when clearly I should have. I'm terrible with advice but hopefully you can work it out one way or another.

Sorry to hear that buddy, we are all here for you....sometimes it is easier to confide in strangers than family... On a personal note, I have been where you are at right now with an ex of mine, it was hard to imagine how life could ever go on without that routine.....But let me tell you, looking back on it now, it did happen for a reason....During that time, I learned alot about myself, and now alot better off for it. I have since found the woman of my dreams, and have 3 wonderful kids...I hope things work out for you, and let me know if there is any way I can help you.

Jeff

sorry to hear dude :( if you need a puppy sitter or some beer buddies we can come for a visit let me know if I can help at all

could def use a beer buddy lol i need to find something to occupy my time i was going to work on my tanks but honestly when i look at it i just want to smash them and im smarter that that so ill keep my distance and work wasnt a good idea today as it was all sprung on me as i was on my way out the door this morning:) seriously though if anyone wants to hang out have some drinks im down, one thing i do know is i need to start having friends again and stay social or it will eat me alive and fester inside my brain :):)

theres a lesson to be learned here i just need to figure out what it is and like the tanks only time will tell:) thanks all:)

well we're in red deer but if you need a friend we could def come up later on...do you still have Zoya? could bring zooey they could wear each other out :P

Sorry to hear that bud,

for sure you guys are welcome to come anytime, and bring your dog mines a bit sad i dont think she knows whats going on yet shes just looking for the puppy. im thinking i should host a frag party and bbq/drinks at my house kind of get to know some new peeps and have a good time:):) your all invited and ill post something later to see if theres any interest:)

thanks:):)

Maybe talk to Ryan (Muck). He's local and I've heard he does a lot of exotic dancing for these sorts of things. Not sure what he charges tho.

hahaha ive heard that lol hummm must be true if it made its way all the way to edmonton. its a good way to earn a little side tank income that the wife dont know about if you ask me :):)

:lol: I know Ryan and it's true! Kinda pricey though :razz:

Denny, I'm so sorry to hear that, I already consider you a friend so any time you want to hang out just call me and let me know. Needless to say I know excatly what you're going through, only difference was my break up with Steve was fairly mutual.

Way to out me Brett... I told you I got out of the hobby temporarily to focus on "other things" in confidence bro.

Haha. My bad dude. Was trying to throw a little business at ya =)

I'm really sorry to hear that Denny.

it def wasnt mutual which is why im having such a hard time with it it came as a surprise but not really if you know what i mean?? i just started a new job recently thats got me working during the evenings and mornings and to give you a idea of how dumb i am i got home last night and never even noticed her stuff was packed i cant believe i missed that ,i even left for work and didnt notice this morning, then she laid it all on me as i was going out the door:(

thanks laurie and we def are friends you too dawn and im gonna start being better to friends and try to take a different approach to things now:)

watta ya know i did learn something today:)

My wife was not very happy until i got myself a controller which helps me staying away from tank for a bit.

I am sorry to hear but things happen for a reason so hopefully you will feel better soon

Was in the same spot some 5 years ago. It will take time but you will come to realize that it only gets better day by day. You said you fighting etc. ,I'm sure you weren't happy either even if you can't accept or see it right now. Take time to reflect about your relationship, but don't lay blame on either side just reflect,accept and move on.... A better life is in store for you, I know it's hard to see right now but it will come.... promise.

Peace out.

There's usually beer in my fridge...

wow im surprised by the number of responses ive gotten thanks all youve really helped me get through the roughest part of my break up which is today the day it happened its nice to have some replys to read so im not thinking all day :):) thanks again all theres no peeps like reefin peeps:):) truely a great site that helps those with all problems fish related or not:):)

ouch
 

sorry dude

thanks patrick:) your invited to my frag party btw its on the 11th im hoping:) hope ill see you there you may even walk home with a nice show piece:):)

well a big thanks to Llamarama (deidre and tyler) hope i spelled that right lol for coming all the way up from red deer just to spend some time with me and hang out with the dogs and talk tanks:):) weve only met once before but they were willing to go out of their way and spend time with me today:)thanks guys it really helped me keep my mind off things today:) its incredible how friendly people are from this site keep up the good work guys and pretty soon well have a perfect world:):)

sigh... it's always like that, ain't it? always realize it when it's too late...

there is always beer in my fridge too and a pair of dogs in the backyard ready to lick another puppy crazy lol but i gotta warn you that beer comes with a price lol

You spelled my name right! Haha it was great to see ya again and let the weiners be friends ;) hope we can make it for the party it's a great idea :) glad you're thinking positive it's the way to be!

WHOW dude sorry to hear about this but I would just like to say that at least it happened before there was a wedding and kids involved. I have been there, I was working at a diamond mine 300 kms north of Yellowknife. Had a bad feeling that something was VERY WRONG at home so I requested to fly out on the next cargo plane out. After a 2 1/2hr flight and a $200 cab ride from Edmonton to Red Deer opened the door to my house only to find it COMPLETELY EMPTY. Wife gone, kids gone and bank account empty as well.

It look like you have many friends here from all over so CHIN UP, think positive and things WILL get better, it always does if you work it.

thanks grizz and i have to agree at least there are no kids involved or divorce in the future .we were civilized and i even helped her pack her stuff with her family and loaded it ... and i did it with a smile as much as it killed me

pmd