Ohhh! I like this theory! You never know...he is prettier than her.

HA!

Now I am seeing that she is swimming with him around the edges of the anemone but if he tries to go IN the anemone he is chased out. He went to the top corner of the tank and she actually came out to see him which is strange because until now I have never seen them leave the anemone more than a few inches and only to grab food. I think they may be trying to work it out. She isn't ready to have him come home yet but at least she misses him :D

Another interesting thing is that when I feed mysis, he will take it in his mouth and spit it out into the anemone while she will just eat the mysis herself. So i bet the anemone likes him better :razz:

In all seriousness this is kind of sad to see. Interesting too. They have never had any problems that I ever saw.

Have you checked for eggs? He is supposed to look after the eggs, but maybe she is confused if it is her first spawn.

Counseling perhaps. Or may be they are having OTHER problems. :razz:

Yes there are eggs and yes I do think she is confused and being protective. He seems to know he is suppose to care for them but is having a hard time getting too close.

Im sure it will work out eventually.

That would be my guess as well. Being a new Mommy she may not know proper protocol. Give her time and she'll probably figure it out. Either that or she's just a bitch!

Better hope that the angel is not a lawyer or all he'll is going to break loose and the angel will end up with the nem.
My black clown actually picked on her mate so bad she killed him in about a week.

Are they dramatically different in size? My couple remains happy and reproductive...producing a new batch of young every 17 days or so...but the male is less than 1/2 the size of the female.

divorce is never pretty, shes probably going to get the anemone in the settlement. the women always do.